Saturday, October 28, 2017

TEN THINGS MEN CAN'T SAY ANYMORE (without sounding like a Neanderthal)




1) WHY DIDN’T SHE SAY SOMETHING SOONER? - The inference is that if she was blameless she would have spoken out immediately. Guys, what’s so hard to understand about the consequences of reporting harassement: getting fired, slandered, ostracized, sometimes
beaten up and even killed? 


2) IT WAS JUST A GOOD-NATURED/FRIENDLY PAT
Women are sovereign human beings not pets. Unlike cats you require permission to touch a woman.

3) SHE SHOULD BE FLATTERED
Why would a woman ever be flattered to be disrespected?
Do you really think women want to be assaulted?
Unwanted touching suggests that a woman 
is thought of as a resource, 
an amusing pleasure toy at men’s disposal. 
As in “wine, women and song.”

4) SHE'S CRAZY - When women fight back, they’re always called “crazy”. 
So, which is it: “Speak up sooner” or “She’s crazy” if she does.

5) I DIDN’T KNOW - Any man who’s ever had a girlfriend knows.

6) SHE WAS ASKING FOR IT - Admitting that you’re controlled by women’s behavior/clothing is embarrassing isn’t it?

7) IT WAS A JOKE - No it wasn’t. Jokes are funny.

8) I MEAN, ARE WE GOING TO BE SUED EVERY TIME WE WINK AT A WOMAN NOW?  Yes.

9) IT’S A WITCH HUNT. We hope so.

10) SMILE - Anyone who thinks he’s entitled to remark on or control 
women’s facial expressions is delusional.

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HARASSMENT, SEXISM, CAT-CALLING, DISCRIMINATION,  

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

IT'S NOT ONLY HARVEY











It’s not only Harvey
it’s not only Hollywood
it’s not about “compliments”
it’s not about sex addiction
it’s not even about sex.

It's about the entitlement of the male gaze,
to stare, judge and condemn.
It's about the misguided authority
to tell women what to do,
even what expression to wear:
Smile! Don't look so serious.
At least that got a smile out of you. 
It’s about cat-calling
It’s about treating women like pets
like animals in a zoo 
like property
like vaginas
like breeders
like trophies 
or luxury toys
like nonentities.
It’s about POWER.

I once stood on the sidewalk 
with a large group of women 
(power in numbers)
and we cat-called all the men
walking past. 
We whistled and yelled: 
Yo, handsome 
Why don’t you smile?
Look at that tushie
etc.

Not one man looked pleased 
or flattered or complimented.
They all looked alarmed, 
uncomfortable 
and some, a little scared.
Because cat-calling is an assault.
Never a compliment.

There's only one way to get respect:
reject, report and LAUGH at harassers' suggestions.
Understand that "groping", "fondling" and "unwanted touching"
is SEXUAL ASSAULT/BATTERY.
Then lawyer up.

Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964
Sexual Offenses Act of 2003
Verbal Harassment
Penal Code 243.4 PC, (groping)
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HARASSMENT, SEXISM, WEINSTEIN, MISOGYNY