Sunday, February 10, 2013


When did LOVE get replaced by the ghastly soulless word RELATIONSHIP? Surely "the way in which things and people are connected" is not how we feel.
Are we so afraid of the power behind the word LOVE that we feel the need to dilute and distance it? 
Are we so worried about wanting and needing LOVE that we’re even afraid to mention its name?
LOVE, the-thing-that-shall-not-be-named.
According to TV and movies, just saying “I love you” has become a phrase to be avoided like a landmine.
Perhaps we’re afraid of the passion involved in love. When we’re swept off our feet by a force stronger than logic, is it the lack of control that scares us? 

But shouldn’t we welcome being overwhelmed by superior forces of delight and wonder? Shouldn’t we be thrilled to float down the street emiting beams of bliss
Or to feel the quieter, deeper satisfaction of long-term love?
Why not throw caution to the winds when it comes to love?

And why the coy: "I've met someone"?  We don't dare say "I'm in love."
How odd that love should be taboo
How sad to hear: "The person I'm in a relationship with" instead of "My lover."
Why not be happy for the privilege of that rare and wonderful state and celebrate it out loud all over the place?
Valentine’s day is a celebration of LOVE not relationship.
Let’s celebrate the heart-pounding, hand-trembling, throat-constricting breathlessness of something that sounds like a medical emergency but is, by far, the best feeling in the world.

Let’s stop pussyfooting around with clinical words like RELATIONSHIP and say what we really mean.



John said...

I agree, love is a many splendored thing, and something to embrace. Relationships are in the details - what you do together, how you interact, who does the dishes, etc. Those are important things in practical everyday life, and even a whole lotta love can't always overcome the difficulties in a relationship.

And I agree that there's often an over-emphasis on being in a "relationship", and checking off the boxes of what that means, while avoiding the question of whether there is any love. Even in the schoolyard rhyme, it says "first comes love, then comes marriage" - putting the "L" word firmly at the top of the list.

Nora Lumiere said...

Some cultures are very squeamish and afraid of love. Unlike the French who consider love and all its permutations, a part of life to be embraced with gusto.
"Relationship is a word that can be applied to objects so it's inappropriate to use in the vocabulary of love.